As I stood at the bus stop waiting for a "trotro" a driver's mate asked me where I was going. I told him where I was going and since it was not in his direction he decided to get on my nerves. "You will still be here when I come back, old woman."
Wait did he just refer to me as an old woman? Then I remembered I walked with an aid so that could be it and not my looks. But still it got me thinking, what's wrong if someone calls me an old woman? Am I gerascophobic (phobia of getting old)?
When I was a teenager I would keep telling my mum I'm a big girl and should be treated like one. I wanted to blossom so fast into a tulip as beautiful as the heavens. Then suddenly I don't want to grow old. It's time to reprogram my mind on aging. Fasten your seat belt and let's go for a joyful ride on aging.
Growing old is a blessing. With respect to the Bible it's a reward for honouring your parents. When we see an obituary of a young person we question how terrible the world has become.We all want to live long so where is the fear of aging coming from?
When I think of aging I see wrinkles on my beautiful face. I see my toothless mouth with the punishment of never chewing meat. I see a decreased speed in walking. I see myself so different from the latest generation with a different sense of fashion. All these age stereotypes do not only induce fear of aging but also have a negative effect on your health.
Maybe you are not concerned about the physical stereotypes. You may be worrying over your unachieved goals. But who said goals cannot be achieved when you have grown up? Don't tell me by the time you find your greener pastures you are too old to climb the fence. Dont forget, age waits for no man. It doesn't wait for your failures neither does it wait for your success. So when you keep looking back at your unattained goals, your age keeps increasing with an arithmetic ratio.
riddle riddle! What goes up and never comes down?
We want to grow old but we want to grow old gracefully. We need to stop seeing old age as a lost youth. Do you really want to be forever young?
Is not wisdom found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding? Job 12:12.
Being old comes with an experienced life. You would have seen it all. It's just another phase to pay attention to exercising. This time you may not be exercising for an hourglass figure but for fitness. You may not be watching your diet for weight control but for health reasons. Flee from stress and have enough rest.
There are people who have aged gracefully. It's possible. See Nana Konadu Agyemang Rawlings, Keanu Reeves, Mzbel, Genevieve Nnaji, Jennifer Lopez etc.
Old age should never be dreadful. I want to grow old and have fun with my grandchildren. I'm sure they will love me as much as I will love them. Let's show love to the aged. Take care of them, protect them and learn from them. Do give your grandpa and grandma a kiss. Thanks for reading.