A letter to my future husband

If I were still in high school, I’d begin this letter by saying, “the brightness of the sun has given me the warmth to write you this letter”. Well I have grown beyond that so let’s start with my vows to you.

𝘮𝘺 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘰𝘸𝘯

𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘪 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶
𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘯𝘰 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘴
𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶
𝘪𝘯 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘢𝘥 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴
𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘬𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩

𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶
𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵
𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩
𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘩
𝘪 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘢𝘭𝘬 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶

𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩
𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘯
𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺
𝘴𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘪 𝘴𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺

𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘬
𝘪 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯
𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘭𝘺
𝘪 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘱𝘶𝘴𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘵

𝘪 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧
𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯
𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦
𝘢𝘴 𝘪 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘪 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺
𝘪𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘪 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵
𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘨𝘰
𝘪 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘧𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶
𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘩 𝘥𝘰 𝘶𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵
𝘴𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳
𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘯

My dear, it is important to write this letter so that you know exactly what you are getting into. love is not enough to sustain a marriage. Marriage requires a lot of effort, and I hope you can understand that our willingness to stay together through thick and thin will be the strength to keep us together.

I’m far from being perfect. I don’t know if I qualify to be an introvert because once you break my shell, I’m as mad as a March hare. I’m sometimes strict. I’m sure it seems from the fact that I’m a first born. I’m also crazy with fashion. I may look tamed now so don’t be surprised if that madness resurfaces. I can’t wait to help pick your clothes for you. I will dress you up and admire the hell out of you.

I’m a good listener. I can listen to you for hours but the problem is I will say less or nothing at all. If that’s a problem, allow me to write down my response to whatever you tell me. Don’t worry, I have a good memory, I won’t forget any line. I will remember every little thing you do for me because those are the things that sweep me off my feet. Unfortunately I will remember the ugly ones too. Forgiveness does not destroy my memory. I apologize in advance for that. But once I say I have forgiven you, trust me on it. I will apologize whenever I’m wrong.

I believe in speaking a love language my partner’s understands. It makes the whole thing of love, passion and romance simple. My primary love language is the act of service. Going out of your way to help me with things I can do by myself and those I can’t do by myself is the best way to show me that you adore me. This has nothing to do with feminism, and don’t tell me I’ve been watching too much telenovela either. All I want is a helping husband.

I’m sure we won’t fit perfectly like bolts and nuts, so conflict will be inevitable. When I am angry, I will be quiet. This is not because I am not ready to solve the problem, rather it’s because I’m scared of the things that may come out of my mouth. Believe me, when I am angry, my own thoughts frighten me. Don’t force me to speak, we will regret it when everything is over.Once I calm down, we will solve the problem, and you will see that we will even laugh about it. How we deal with these conflicts will determine our future. We can settle our differences without loud and lengthy arguments.

I hate lies. I’d like you to remember this even in your sleep. It’s like you are insulting my intelligence when you look in my face and lie to me. It’s one of the things I’m still struggling to forgive others for. Please trust me, no matter how ugly the truth is, I will get mad, go mute then calm down for us to have our inevitable civilized, honest and satisfying conversation. Just don’t lie to me, please. Lies have the tendency of breaking my trust in you.

You will be marrying into my family. It’s therefore very important to me that those I care about love and accept you. I won’t want a situation of having to choose between any of you because you are all important to me.

I’m blessed to have you. I’m sure God gave me you with the intention of making you bring out the best in me. God Himself will be our strength and just as my name implies I’m strong because my saviour lives. We will make a great team. When we take this step together, just know there’s no turning back. Cheers to a Christ centred marriage.

I will end here with a song from Ruelle, I get to love you.

One look at you
My whole life falls in line
I prayed for you
Before I called you mine
Oh, I can’t believe it’s true sometimes
Oh, I can’t believe it’s true
I get to love you
It’s the best thing that I’ll ever do
I get to love you
It’s a promise I’m making to you
Whatever may come your heart I will choose
Forever I’m yours, forever I do
I get to love you

Your Mrs.

Happy Valentine’s day Kings and Queens. Thanks for reading.