When it comes to forgiving others for the wrong they have done to you, it’s easier said than done. My need to steer clear of the topic is deep because everything I share with you my cherished readers, comes back staring at me when I decide to do otherwise. I keep hearing tiny voices in my head, practice what you preach. This page is like a mini conscience to me you know, and I hope it is to you too.
By now I’ve painted myself as a vengeful Tom and Jerry but no I’m not vengeful, at least not entirely. There are things I forgive easily and perhaps one or two things I’m still struggling to forgive myself and others for. Sometimes it’s difficult to let go because of lack of apology from those who offend us. It’s even harder to let go when they don’t even realize how bad they hurt you. It’s the hardest when we have to forgive ourselves because we saw all the warning signs and yet paid to heed to them. Let me share with you how I stupidly nearly failed an exam in level 100, all for a boy. I promise to keep it simple and short.
I studied sociology and Chinese, social science courses which had little or no calculations, except for quantitative analysis. However I was required to take numeracy skills as a general requirement and I did. I had a friend studying chemistry at the time who had no calculator. I felt his course required more calculations and gave him mine to use but return it when it’s time to write my numeracy skills paper. Fast forward, he finished his exams and I needed the calculator for mine. With the excuse that another friend of his needs a calculator, he decided not to return my calculator to me. To cut a long story short, he called me stupid for trying to get my calculator back.
A night to the paper he brought back the calculator. I sat behind the paper I realized how stupid I was and tears started flowing down my cheeks. Yes it hurts, and I still remember it as if it happened yesterday. Things regarding my academics are difficult to forgive and forget, that’s just me.
Some people swear after being hurt, especially when we consider the wrong too serious to forgive. We say “I will never forgive him for the rest of my life!” “If I ever forgive him call me a goat”. Yes, the things we say when our emotions take control of us.
Well, who are you helping most when you forgive the person who hurt you, yourself or the offender? Actually, you’re helping yourself more than the other person. Forgiving doesn’t mean the wrong they did to you was well deserved. It doesn’t mean what they did was right either.
Forgiveness helps you heal. It helps you discard all the negative energy you harbor in your spirit. It makes you happy and more focused on the lessons learnt rather than the harm done to you.
It can help us to abandon the evil and vengeful plans and do good. Forgiveness brings people who have gone astray back on the right track.
To forgive is to leave oneself with greater spiritual space and a wider retreat in life. We set ourselves free to keep our intimate relationship with God pure.
At some point, all of us made mistakes. We hurt others knowingly or unknowingly. Those mistakes are buried deep in our hearts. If we expect God to forgive us of our iniquities, then we must also forgive those who trespass against us.
In order to forgive, we need to change our view of the situation we experienced.
We need to make the decision to forgive and let God take control of the rest.
We can’t be blocking our blessings because of what others did to us.
I pray for grace to forgive in the same measure God forgives us of our sins, Amen. Thanks for reading, lots of love Dela.